Lesson 22: 200 Questions To Ask Your Partner

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Below is a list of 200 questions which you are welcome to share with your partner.

These questions present an opportunity for you to not only learn more about yourself (because you are obviously going to take a peek at them first) but also more about others.

If you like you can test yourself to see if you are a smarty-pants who knows her partner inside out.

I’m guessing there will be a few questions from the list that are going to stump you.

And that’s the point.

These questions are here to make both you and your partner think.

Use them at your own discretion and be prepared for a few surprises. I know I experienced some… 


What was your first impression of me?

What’s your idea of a truly romantic evening?

If you could change three things about me what would they be?

If you could change three things about yourself what would they be?

What is your dream profession?

What is your dream place to visit?

Who is your dream celebrity to meet?

What are your three favorite body parts on me and why?

What is your favorite movie of all time?

Who is your favorite actor?

Who is your favorite actress?

What is your favorite fruit and favorite vegetable?

Tell me who is your favorite aunt and uncle and why?

Tell me who is your favorite cousin and why?

What is the first memory you have?

What is your earliest happy memory?

What is your earliest scary memory?

Who was your first crush and what was appealing about him or her?

Who was your first date and where did you go?

How have you coped with break-ups in the past?

Have you ever had a recurring dream? If so describe it to me.

Do you have any nightmares? If so what happens in them?

Do you remember any dreams you had as a kid?

What was your favorite TV show as a kid?

Who was your favorite singer as a kid?

What is the best decision you ever made?

What is your biggest regret?

What do you think makes a successful person successful?

If you won the lotto what are the first three things you would buy?

If you won the lotto would you continue working?

If your house was on fire and you could only take five things before leaving what would they be?

Tell me about your proudest moment.

Tell me about your most embarrassing moment.

Have I ever embarrassed you?

Who is your best friend and why?

Who is your worst friend and why?

Do you believe in ghosts?

Do you believe in heaven? Or in hell?

Do you believe in afterlife?

What is your favorite sweet food?

What is your favorite savory food?

What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?

How do you know when I am happy?

How do you know when I am angry?

If you could steal the wardrobe of any celebrity who would it be?

Can you remember your parents having any fights? If so what were they about?

Who are you closer to – your mom or your dad? Why?

Describe your parent’s marriage to me. What were the best parts and the worst bits about it?

What is your favorite sexual fantasy?

What is your all time favorite song?

What is your all time favorite book?

If a genie granted you three magic wishes, what would they be?

What upsets you most in our relationship?

What makes you feel happiest in our relationship?

How do think people perceive you? Do you think this perception is accurate?

Can you think of anything you wished for as a kid but were denied? What was it?

Do you have any needs that are not being met in your life? What can I do to meet those needs?

What is the most important thing money can do for you?

Who had control of the money when you were growing up?

Who do you feel responsible for in life?

When did you have your first kiss?

When did you lose your virginity?

How often do you think it’s normal to have sex?

Who taught you about the “birds and the bees? How old were you then?

How do you define love?

Have you ever questioned the existence of love?

When you talk about me to others what do you say?

When a conflict arises how do you react?

Does your family have any secrets it refuses to talk about?

What are you most ashamed of and why?

If you had one day left to live what would you do?

If you died today what would you want your final arrangements to be?

Do you feel you had enough education?

If you could go back to university what would you study?

If you found someone’s wallet what would you do with it?

If you found $1000 in an envelope what would you do with it?

If you gave money to charities which ones would you choose and why?

If you were in trouble who would you go to for advice?

What is the biggest obstacle you have faced in life? How did you overcome it?

If you could go back in time what period in history would you like to visit?

If you could go back in time what period of your own life would you like to revisit?

Who was the first important person who died in your life and how did you feel?

What animals do you like?

What animals don’t you like?

What is your favorite age to be and why?

If you could ask me one question what would it be?

Do you think men love differently than women?

When did you first realize you loved me?

What is the most important thing in your life and why?

How would you describe your moral values?

How do you think you teach children moral values?

Did you have any pets whilst growing up and if so, which was your favorite?

Is it ever acceptable to keep a secret and why?

What is the thing you fear the most?

What did you think the first time you met my mother and father?

What is most important in a marriage to you?

Have you ever stolen anything? If so, what was it?

Who do you believe is the dominant one in our relationship and why?

Do you masturbate and if so how often?

What is your favorite color?

What is your favorite drink?

What was your favorite subject back at school?

Where do you see yourself in five years?

Where do you see yourself in ten years?

Who is the person who has influenced your life the most?

What kinds of movies do you enjoy and why?

What kinds of sports do you enjoy and why?

What is the best gift you have ever gotten?

What is the craziest gift you have ever gotten?

If you had to describe yourself in three words what would they be?

If you had to describe me in three words what would they be?

If you could go back into time, what would you change?

Do you have any bad habits?

Are you a positive or negative person?

What makes you feel sad?

How do you feel about porn?

How much sleep do you need?

What are your strengths?

What are your weaknesses?

How do you think love should be shown?

Name one thing I do that makes you feel loved.

Name one thing I do that makes you feel unloved.

What do you enjoy doing with me?

How much time do you think couples should spend together?

What makes you feel secure in life?

What makes you feel insecure in life?

What have been your biggest struggles in life?

What can I do to help you with these struggles?

When was the last time you yelled at someone? Why? Did you later regret it?

What do you seek in a friend that you neither expect nor want in a lover?

When you tell a story, do you often exaggerate or embellish it? If so, why?

How much do you feel you are in control of your life?

If you were diagnosed with a terminal illness what sort of insights do you think you would have about your life?

Would you like to be famous? For what and why?

Would you rather play a game with someone more talented or less talented than you? Why?

How would you like to be remembered after you die?

What would you like said at your funeral? Whom would you like to speak?

Is there something you still wish to achieve in your life? Why haven’t you done it?

Do you have any compulsive habits? Have you ever tried to break them?

What did you learn as a child that has proven to be most valuable in your life?

Would you defend a person if they were being unfairly belittled by other people?

If you could take a one-month holiday to anywhere in the world and money was not a consideration where would you go and what would you do? Who would you most like to go with?

Have you ever considered suicide? What is so important to you that without it your life would not be worth living?

If you had the option to find out what friends and acquaintances REALLY think of you, would you want to know? Do you think they would all agree with one another about the type of person you are?

How much energy do you spend doing things to favorably impress other people? If you were unconcerned about what other people think, what sort of things might you do differently?

If you could wake up tomorrow in the body of someone else, would you do so? Whom would you pick?

Do you believe in any sort of God? If not do you think you might still pray if you were in a life-threatening situation?

Who is the most important person in your life? What could you do to improve the relationship? Are you willing to do it?

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

In what ways will you treat your children differently from the way you were treated?

Do you believe in aliens? Or life in outer space?

Do you find it easy or difficult to say no to favors? If so why?

Would you be willing to go swimming at a nude beach?

How much do you like your own body?

What if anything is too serious to be joked about?

What do you value most in a relationship?

If your friend has a noticeable self-destructive behavior but is unaware of it would you point it out to them?

If there was a public execution on TV, would you watch it?

If you wanted to look attractive, how would you dress?

What constitutes a perfect evening to you?

Whom do you admire most? How does that person inspire you?

Would you be willing to murder an innocent person if it meant ending hunger in the world?

What things are too personal to discuss with others?

Would you prefer to be blind, deaf, dumb or paralyzed?

Which of your current friends do you feel will still be important to you ten years from now?

For $1,000,000 would you be willing to never see or talk to your best friend again?

What do you like best about your life?

What do you like least about your life?

If you decided to do something but everyone begged you not to, would you still do it anything?

Can you be counted on to do what you say you will do?

What does it take for you to trust someone?

What would you never be willing to sacrifice?

If you could project yourself into the future and not return, would you do so? How far would you go?

How much influence do you feel you have on the people around you?

Can you think of someone you met who, over a short period of time, significantly influenced your life?

Would you prefer to be overdressed or underdressed at a party?

What has being your biggest disappointment in life?

What has being your biggest failure?

What kinds of things do you usually talk about with other people?

Relative to the population at large, how do you rate your physical attractiveness? Your intelligence? Your personality?

Have you ever experimented with drugs?

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about any one thing you wish to know (about your future, life or anything else) what would you ask?

If you were guaranteed honest answers to any three questions, who would you question and what would you ask?

What is the most embarrassing thing you can imagine happening to someone?

Would you care if you looked silly in front of strangers?

You discover your beautiful child is in fact not yours, due to a mix-up at the hospital. Would you want to exchange the child to correct the mistake?

Do you think the world will be a better or worse place in 100 years from now?

If you could invite any six guests, alive or deceased, to a dinner party who would they be?

If you could choose how to die, how would it happen?

What would make you feel betrayed by your partner?

Do you feel you have enough time? How has your attitude towards time changed as you have gotten older?

What kind of people do you like to spend time with? What can people learn by looking at your friends?

Would you accept $1,000,000 to leave the country and never set foot in it again?

When was the last time you cried? What was the reason why?

Would you seek revenge if someone hurt a friend of yours? How about a family member or your child?

How do your feelings about death influence the way you live your life?

If you saw someone stealing something, what would you do about it?

If you saw someone hurting a child, what would you do about it?

Would you in general stop to help someone in need?

In conversations do you tend to talk more or listen?